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Episode 91 · The Social Brain
Why You Both Think You're Right
An argument gets stuck because each of you is sure your own view is just obvious. That stuck feeling is not stubbornness. It is a skill that has gone quiet.
The Science
- Saxe and Kanwisher (2003), NeuroImage: the temporoparietal junction is a specialized hub for theory of mind, tracking that others know and want different things.
- When that hub goes quiet, the brain treats your own view as the entire truth.
- So the fight stops being about the problem and starts being about who is right.
- Feeling stuck and sure is a skill gone quiet, not stubbornness.
The Protocol
- Run a quick point-of-view check before you react.
- Ask one real question: what does this look like from their side?
- Say it in three parts: what I know, what I am assuming, what they might be seeing.
- Notice the signal, name the mechanism, and change one input before autopilot.
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Sources
- Saxe R, Kanwisher N. People thinking about thinking people: the role of the temporo-parietal junction in theory of mind. NeuroImage. 2003;19(4):1835-1842.
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